I once had dinner with Frank Sinatra. Well, sort of. I mention that (details below) because I've just finished reading the massive two-volume biography of Sinatra by James Kaplan. All together it's about 2,000 pages (including footnotes and sources), but Kaplan's prose is breezy and the many stories and anecdotes from Sinatra's friends and acquaintances make the pages fly by. If you are a fan of "The Voice," (and if not, why not?) it's well worth your time. If you're not up for all 2,000 pages, I'll give you a one-line summary: Frank was a world-class S.O.B., but also one of the greatest entertainers in the history of popular music. While reading the bio, I played Frank's records -- matching up the LPs to the timeline in the biography, beginning with the early hits on Columbia, the pivotal years with Tommy Dorsey's band, his long heyday on Capitol and Reprise, and ending with his last two studio albums, Duets and Duets II, released in 1993 and 1994 respectively. He died in 1998.
My Dinner With Frank
OK, now my Sinatra story. My wife and I were working at the U.S. Embassy in Rome in September of 1991 when Frank came to town to perform a concert as part of his Diamond Jubilee World Tour. The U.S. Ambassador hosted a gala dinner for Frank and his fourth wife Barbara (the former Mrs. Zeppo Marx) at the Villa Taverna, the official residence of the U.S. Ambassador in Rome. Since my wife and I were fairly junior officers, we were nowhere near being on the guest list for the soiree. However, late in the afternoon on the day of the dinner, we got a call from the Ambassador's staff to say that one of the invited couples had cancelled at the last minute, and they needed us to get dressed and get over to the residence to fill the empty seats right now. Well, sure. And on the way, we should stop at the Hotel Excelsior to pick up TV personality John McLoughlin and give him a ride. OK.
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| The Villa Taverna in Rome |
Frank and Barbara were two of the last to arrive for the dinner. As they got out of the limo, I welcomed them to the residence and asked if they would please sign the Ambassador's guest book. Frank gave me a look like he had just stepped in dog poop and muttered, "I ain't signing the goddamn guest book." Barbara smiled at me and whispered to Frank, "Be nice." She quickly signed for the two of them, and I ushered them inside.
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| George Segal |
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| Steve and Eydie |
Frank and Barbara were seated at the head table with the Ambassador and his wife, along with Steve and Eydie and Gina Lollobrigida. It was a gorgeous September evening in Rome, with twinkly lights strung overhead in the garden. I don't remember much else about the dinner except that after coffee and desert the Ambassador made brief remarks and then asked if Frank could possibly favor us with a song (the staff had moved the residence's baby grand onto a nearby side patio and had hired a pianist to be on standby just in case.) I couldn't hear Frank, but he had the same look as when I asked him to sign the guest book earlier. After a brief, awkward pause, Steve and Eydie got up and graciously agreed to do a couple of numbers. The Sinatras left soon afterward, but the party moved inside and continued for some time afterward.
It was a pretty memorable evening for my wife and me, and all these years later I'm sorry to note that we didn't even get a mention in Kaplan's book.
Enjoy the music!










































